Thursday, 19 June 2014
With only 6 weeks to go (give or take a few either side) I am now starting to get a little nervous about the massive change that's about to happen in our household...
So here is a plea for advice on how to deal the following - from anyone who has more than one child already or anyone who doesn't but still thinks they have good advice :)
1. Feelings of jealousy & sharing of attention between children
Doof will be 21 months when Doofette is born. I've heard people say that if the age gap is less than 2 years there is a lot less jealousy in the long term as the older one can't remember being an only child - but surely at the start that isn't true? Any top tips on how to reduce Doof feeling like he's being displaced? We've bought some toys for Doofette to give him and also a small doll so he has a 'role' to play and can feed his baby when I'm feeding etc but any other tips?
2. How to breastfeed
How do you BF with a crazy toddler running around?! Doof was not the most quick-to-learn (mainly due to his posterior tongue tie I think) and so would take about an hour to feed and would want to feed every 2-3 hours... Obviously no problem with baby number 1 when I had nothing else to do but no idea how it'll work if Doofette is also that slow! I know I could bottle feed etc but I exclusively BF Doof and would love to do the same with Doofette if possible. So other than putting Doof in a baby cage for the duration of each feed, any other tips? He's not quite old enough yet to sit nonstop in front of a tv programme or play consistently by himself for more than 5 minutes.
3. Bath and bedtime
How do you do bath/bedtime when solo? Toddler bath and bed at usual time and just work baby around it? Or did you try and get baby down for a sleep before dealing with tired toddler?
So many things to think about... Obviously people have been coping with multiple kids at the same time for centuries and am sure going with the flow is the best approach. But forewarned is forearmed and so any top tips from anyone who's been through it already would be very much appreciated :)