My
children are telly addicts, I admit it. Even Iz at 5 months old will
arch her back and crane her neck to see what's happening if I dare to
have her sitting facing away from it.
*wiggle* *squirm* I want to see the TV!!!!! |
Previously
I blogged about the impact MTV could be having on Doof but that was
during the good old only-one-child-to-juggle days when the TV was not on
that much and we only narrowly exceeded the AAP's super strict
guidelines...
Then
Iz was born. And suddenly I needed a million more pairs of hands. And
at least 2 more bodies. And another lap. It's tough for you, toddler and
baby when you're trying to breastfeed one, cuddle the other, have a
glass of water so you don't get mastitis (again) etc etc. So TV can be a
godsend. Entertains D while I feed Iz. Or while I make his lunch. Or
load the washing machine. Or dishwasher. Or... anyway, you get the
picture.
But
somewhere along the way the TV lost its "off" button. It was just on
all the time. Constantly. Peppa. Ben and Holly. Frozen. Ice Age. Timmy
Time. All on constant repeat. And D started to ask for TV all the time.
Every time he walked in the door. Even if he had friends over to play.
Not good.
So I set us a challenge. 5 days. No TV. Cold turkey.
[for the kids obviously. Once they were in bed we could watch as much Storage Wars and Say Yes to the Dress as we liked :)]
So how did it go?
So much better than I could possibly have imagined!
When
D came down in the morning of the first day he asked for TV. I simply
said "TV not working, broken". He looked at me and then as if to double
check said "TV holiday?" which is what he says when anything goes away. I
nodded and he trotted off to find some toys to play with.
That
first morning he played with his toy kitchen and rearranged all the
food. He found a threading game he hadn't used in ages. We went out for a
walk and read some books together. At 10.30 we had about 3 minutes of "Frozen
now!" and then "TV broken". And that was it. In the afternoon he played
with his alphabet magnets, made a collage with some stickers, built a
den out of the sofa cushions and went for another walk. No more mention
of TV. And much better quality play, which he instigated himself.
Doofy's Den |
DVD boxes were the closest he could get to TV ;) |
And
so the pattern continued over the next few days. It was amazing - no
background noise, D playing with toys he hadn't looked at for months
(and *properly* playing with them, getting engrossed and going down to a
deeper level of play because he wasn't constantly distracted by the TV)
and most surprisingly of all, no real protests from him about the lack
of screen time... To be honest apart from just stating "TV not working" a few times he didn't even seem to notice it anymore.
Learning his alphabet |
Amazing!
The
only concession I made was him being allowed to play on my iPhone
during Iz's feeds. He didn't always do it but if he asked when I was
breastfeeding then I did let him. But 5-10 minutes of listening to
nursery rhymes on an iPhone versus 12 hours of TV? Not even comparable.
So what's happened now?
I'm
ashamed to say since finishing the 5 days, the TV has crept on a bit.
Mainly in the mornings between 7 and 8 (when we're all a bit brain dead -
Iz is not a good sleeper!) and in the evenings just before bath time.
Yes ideally I'd like the TV to never be on but the most important thing
now is that we think about it more. It is no longer background noise -
we either have it on for a finite period to watch a particular program,
or it is off.
No square eyes here anymore :)
Quality sibling bonding sans TV :) |
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What do you do about TV? Do you have rules or just go with the flow?
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